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A playful “tiff”?!



Saatchi-Lawson fight a 'playful tiff'

Acknowledgement: TV3 – Saatchi-Lawson fight a ‘playful tiff’



Charles Saatchi, after caught and photographed with his hands around Nigela Lawson’s neck and with a distressed look on her face, has tried to dismiss the incident as a “playful” tiff,






Saatchi is reported to have “explained” the event thusly,

“About a week ago, we were sitting outside a restaurant having an intense debate about the children, and I held Nigella’s neck repeatedly while attempting to emphasise my point.


There was no grip, it was a playful tiff. The pictures are horrific but give a far more drastic and violent impression of what took place. Nigella’s tears were because we both hate arguing, not because she had been hurt.

“We had made up by the time we were home. The paparazzi were congregated outside our house after the story broke yesterday morning, so I told Nigella to take the kids off till the dust settled.”

That didn’t look like a “playful tiff” to me.

But to be absolutely sure, perhaps we could try the same thing on Charles Saatchi; a “playful” – but firm – grip on his throat until he grimaces.

I wonder how “playful” it would be for him?

Two points go through my mind,

1. If he does this sort of thing in public – what the hell is this guy doing to his wife in private, away from public eyes?

2. Note the comment he made;  “so I told Nigella to take the kids off till the dust settled”. “Told”? That sentence reveals Saatchi’s personality; he “tells” his partner what to do. I think we can see what happens when she doesn’t do as she’s told.

There’s an old saying about sounding and looking like a duck, so it most likely ain’t a goat.

This looks like what it is; Saatchi has lost his temper to such a degree that he’s lashed out – forgetting the eyes around him. As I mentioned before; god only knows what goes on behind their four walls.

If this is what it looks like – spousal abuse – then I hope Ms Lawson seeks help. Before her children are indoctrinated that violence between partners is  natural, and they repeat the cycle later in life.

The only “good” thing that comes out of this apalling situation is that domestic violence is out in the open. It is no longer hidden away. And other women may realise that their situation is by no means unique and support  is available.

Domestic violence is not a “playful tiff”.

It is one human being causing harm to another through violence.

Like hands around a neck.






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  1. 18 June 2013 at 11:54 am

    You couldnt have put it better well said.

  2. mcclairy
    18 June 2013 at 1:26 pm

    Right on and there is another saying, “The first time you are abused it is his fault, the second time it is ‘your fault’.” Harsh but letting women know there must never be a second or a third….or an ever again moment…… which reminds me of the anger I felt when this Natz government – sorry, that should read, apology for a government – cut funding for Women’s Refuge….their first line of defense.

    • Priss
      20 June 2013 at 10:17 pm

      I can understanderstand where you’re coming from mcclairy but it’s just not that simply. Abusers never start out from fiving their partner the bash. It’s more subtle than that. It can take years of slowly wearing down a person. First it starts with little comments that, if I repeated to you, wouldn’t mean much. Much month after month, it takes it’s tol. You start doubting yourself. Then it evolves into sharp words of criticism. And by the time the first push comes, you really don’t know arthur from martha. Then the haranges start. Over anything. Then, after a year or two, the first slap.By that time your abuser can do no wrong, and it’s all your own fault.

      Believe me, it’s not so simple as you think. You literally have to live that life for a year at least, with nowhere else to go, to even begin to understand it.

      If it was as simple as you said, I would’ve left but after two years of slowly being worn down, the door looks like its miles away.

      • Priss
        20 June 2013 at 10:19 pm

        fiving – giving
        tol =toll

  3. Margarida
    19 June 2013 at 3:18 am

    It is one human being causing harm to another through violence, and HUMILIATING her in front of all the world.

    • Leftie Lenny
      19 June 2013 at 11:41 am


  4. 24 June 2013 at 12:32 am

    Also goes to show that domestic violence isn’t restricted to ‘filthy proles’.

    • 24 June 2013 at 3:34 pm

      I think that’s the only “good” to come out of this assault, Deepred – if “good” is the right term to use. It’s now firmly in the public consciousness that spousal abuse is not predicated on socio-economic status.

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