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Missionary, doggie, cowgirl, or -?



National MP, Kanwaljit Bakshi Singh, asked this extraordinary question in Parliament,

If you get married, who will be identified as husband, and who will be identified as wife?

See: Interesting questions at gay marriage bill hearing

This, I submit to the reader, is a pretty good indication how ridiculous and pathetic the whole issue becomes when Parliament intrudes into the private lives of consenting adults (aided and abetted by some extremist religious groups who feel they have a monopoly of certain institutions).

We now have the bizarre spectacle of a Member of Parliament asking some fairly personal questions that – if I went up to some strangers in a bar – would probably earn me a smack in the head.

But let’s take this situation to it’s natural conclusion. If Mr Singh feels it appropriate to ask personal questions about peoples’ personal lives, my questions to him are;

  1. Does he prefer missionary, doggie, cowgirl, or perhaps something a little more exotic from the Kama Sutra?
  2. Does he and Mrs Singh ever do the Wild Thing somewhere other than the marital bedroom? Kitchen? Attic? Laundry?
  3. Spit or swallow?

As a taxpayer who pays for Mr Singh’s Parliamentary career, and now his opportunity to delve into people’s private lives, I feel I have a new-found right to make these enquiries of Mr Singh.

Actually, I think all Parliamentarians should answer these questions! (Except John Banks. I really don’t want to know. )

This is how utterly stupid the debate on marriage equality can get, when those in “authority” believe they have a moral right to sit in judgement of others, and ask loathsome questions of their private lives.

And if our society applied the same standard of bigotry against Mr Singh that he levelled at the two gay men who appeared at the Select Committee hearing today (22 Nov) – a Whites Only racist society might not have been so welcoming toward him when he applied to  immigrate to this country.

Thankfully, he doesn’t have to face a system of apartheid here…

One wonders about his own bigotry.



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  1. 23 November 2012 at 2:27 am

    Dead right, highly bizarre spectacle…

    We have a contract in effect, since they’re paid by tax dollars – yes even bene dollars amazingly. So yeah, I would like to know what I’m getting for my money. Just to make sure it’s getting the best value in the market you see… but I do concur: I’d prefer Banks is not called in for questioning on this, we’ll give him a pass on the issues you raised 😉

  2. Paul Carruthers
    23 November 2012 at 8:02 am

    It never ceases to amaze me how people from minority groups, many of which have suffered oppression, feel so free to stick it to homosexuals. It makes you wonder if they have learned anything from their existence.

  3. Hugh Y
    23 November 2012 at 9:33 am

    It’s not so much that the question is so very personal – I don’t think he was thinking about sex, but more, as Des Smith said, who does the dishes, but it’s such a meaningless question – like in the US long ago, someone asked me if we have Republicans and Democrats in NZ – but then, she was only 13. (And she’s now married to a woman.)

  4. Janya
    23 November 2012 at 9:47 am

    Bit like Maggie Barry asking a submitter to the Chch select committee hearings on the assets sales bill if he stood for Labour at the last election. On his saying NO she then asked if he had ever stood for a labour seat. Where did she get this info on the submitter from and what did it have to do with his submission???? about as much as Singh’s questions. But shows us what idiots we get into parliament.

  5. Janya
    23 November 2012 at 9:50 am

    I was a great fan of Maggie’s gardening show, she needs to go back to gardening!

    • Alan Benton
      23 November 2012 at 12:13 pm

      Yeah, I remember listening to that show for years, it’s funny when people crawl out of the woodwork into the political arena, sometimes you feel they’re completely the opposite of what you might have felt they were like… some of the nicest people I know I have to say are quite interesting shall we say when it comes to the political side of things, it turns my head sometimes.

  6. Theodore
    23 November 2012 at 10:27 am


    First impressions, a somewhat dubious blogpost.

    Then I clicked on what point you were trying to make , Frank. Clever lad that you are!

  7. Strawberry Paddocks
    23 November 2012 at 12:08 pm

    LOL! Cheeky little blogger aren’t you Frank! 😀

  8. Jenny
    23 November 2012 at 1:27 pm

    I’m missing the point somewhere. Ellen talks about Portia de Rossi as her wife, others talk about their husbands….

    • Hugh Y
      23 November 2012 at 1:47 pm

      Showbiz people are not good role models for this kind of thing – they tend to make their own rules.

      If it’s any help, wife is of Germanic origin (cf weib) and meant woman, as in fishwife. Husband is related to “house” and implies a manager, as in husbandry, so they’re not equal or opposite. Maybe the word “spouse” from Latin sponsus=bridegroom AND sponsa=bride (spondere=to betroth) will come to replace both, for everybody.

    • JS
      23 November 2012 at 5:11 pm

      It’s a tradition thing. It needs to be sorted in case one of the partners should die. Is suttee required or not?

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